Today, let’s look at something that’s often overlooked in the demands and busyness of our lives – holding space for ourselves. It’s an intimate practice to be seen, heard, known, and understood. Instead of looking or waiting to have this from someone else, we’re doing it for ourselves,
Now, what does it mean to hold space for yourself? Well, it’s all about creating a safe and judgment-free zone where you can fully be yourself. It’s like giving your own heart a big, warm hug. Here’s how you can do it:
- Set the Scene: Find a quiet corner or create a cosy space where you can unwind. It could be your favourite chair, a quiet park bench, or even a cosy space in your home. Make it inviting and comfortable.
- Breathe: Take a moment to breathe deeply. Close your eyes and focus on your breath. Deep breathing in and out slowly can help you centre yourself and let go of stress.
- Check-in with Yourself: Notice your body, your feelings. Ask yourself, “How am I feeling today?” Without judgment or criticism, notice and acknowledge your emotions. Whether you’re joyful, anxious, sad, or somewhere in between, it’s all okay.
- Listen Actively: Just like you would with a dear friend, listen to what your inner self is trying to say. What feelings are surfacing? Just notice? What’s it like to notice that feeling, that sense?
- Be Kind to Yourself: Speak to yourself kindly, just as you would to a friend. Remember that it’s perfectly normal go through ebbs and flows, that’s what makes us beautifully human.
- Reflect: This emotion is just one part of you, it’s not all of you. Hold space for this emotion with curiosity and openness through a lens of acceptance and love.
- Self-Care Rituals: Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul. It could be reading, taking a long bath, going for a walk, or having a rest. Whatever makes your heart smile, make time for it.
- Repeat Regularly: Holding space for yourself isn’t a one-time event; it’s an ongoing practice. Make it a part of your routine, like a daily check-in with your own heart and soul.
Remember, life can be a whirlwind, and it’s easy to get caught up in the chaos. But by holding space for yourself, you’re saying “I matter, and my well-being is a priority.”, because we deserve self-love, self-compassion, and a whole lot of inner peace! 🌟✨
The rewards of holding space for us reduces emotional chaos and empowers us to bring the best version of ourselves to our kids where we can be a calm empathetic presence. Next tip will directly connect with tools to stand strong and confident in the face of our kids protest, or challenging behaviour.